March 6, 2020

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , , at 1:16 pm by chavisory

There’s been a dynamic this primary season, and this is adapted from a Facebook post that I made yesterday minutes before Elizabeth Warren had officially announced the end of her campaign, but it’s something I feel the need to say something about.

And I don’t have numbers or statistics to throw out here, this is my personal, anecdotal experience; however, it has been …rather notable to me.

Throughout this long primary campaign, and especially in the last couple of days, I have heard, repeatedly, from various people and from only slightly different groups of people, that Elizabeth Warren supporters needed to drop our vote for her and support Bernie if we wanted a real progressive candidate, or to drop our vote for her and vote Biden if we really wanted to win in the general election, but either way, to “stop splitting the vote.”

I have never, not once, not one single time, heard a Warren supporter or campaign volunteer arguing that supporters of any other candidate had any kind of an obligation to drop support for their candidate and get behind ours instead for whatever reason we said.

And that’s not why I decided to support her in the first place, but God, did I appreciate it.

I think that there is something that people making these arguments about our obligation to fall in line for a candidate do not maybe understand, which is just how much girls like me hear stuff like this, and just how tired we are of it.

Like, however many times growing up you think I got told that my duty was to just go along with what somebody else wanted of me, that I needed to stop being inconvenient and make things easier on other people, that I just needed to understand that other people didn’t think like me, that I needed to be “realistic” and not fight for what I really wanted… multiply it by about ten.

No, really. However often you think it was, it was more.

(And, incidentally, if you were or are a person doing this? You have never been the only one. Other people were, and are, doing it, too. I was getting this everywhere. If you thought you were the first person ever to tell a stubborn little girl some hard “truths” about how the world worked, that it would never change for people like me? Guess what. You weren’t. You’re not. You’re just one more. In all likelihood, you are not some brave truth-teller in that girl’s life. You’re just a bully.

I want you to know that.)

I am completely immune to it, in terms of my decision-making. I have been hearing it for so long, you don’t even understand.

But it hasn’t stopped making me so. angry. And it will not make me view your candidate in a more favorable light.

Elizabeth Warren suspended her campaign this week. I am sad. I am disappointed. But I was never not ready for this news, I was never not thinking about how I would vote and who I’d support if she didn’t win the nomination. “Loving Elizabeth Warren means planning for America to break your heart,” as Monica Hesse put it in the Washington Post. Because, again, there is almost nothing I’m more used to than the fact that what is obvious to me is not what’s obvious to most people. That’s the water I’ve been breathing since the day I was born.

There is nothing I need to be told again less than “You have to understand that most people aren’t like you, Emily.”

I know. Trust me, I know.

And I can handle that, I can handle losing honestly, if that’s what happened. If it was just that too many people disagreed with me about who the strongest and most prepared candidate was, and not that they fell victim to some sneering, defeatist, self-fulfilling prophecy about how she could never win anyway, so why bother trying?

If that’s what it was, I’m not sure I can handle it.

Bernie Sanders is most likely my second choice. I never even took my Birdie sticker off of my laptop after the 2016 primaries, because I was not embarrassed of having supported Bernie or the reasons why I did. I am not going to have be sold very hard on voting for him again. But I am going to do so on the strength of his long Senate service, of his being right about the Iraq war when a lot of other basically decent people were wrong, on the trust that constituents from his home state testify to having in his integrity, and what I hear is a really, really good disability policy.

It will not be because of anyone who told me I needed to give up and fall in line because they said so.

1 Comment »

  1. danjodea said,

    Bernie and Warren were my choices too (Warren first, then Bernie). Now that both have dropped out I have no choice in the general election… and that happens a lot. But it freaks me out when people say that they won’t vote in the general because their candidate didn’t win.

    Electing a President isn’t a marriage, it’s a bus ride. We don’t need a perfect bus, just the one that brings us closer to where we need to be. I tell everyone to vote anyway.


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