November 19, 2012

About that apple cranberry sauce from last night…

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , , , at 5:15 pm by chavisory

I’m blushing a bit that this was the hit that apparently it was at last night’s Harvest Celebration potluck.  A few people asked me for the recipe, so here it is! (Not being a closely guarded national secret or anything.)

2 tablespoons butter*
4 smallish apples, sliced
1 bag cranberries (12-16 ounces)
1 cup liquid (I used a mix of water and some pomegranate juice drink I wouldn’t normally have bought, but had leftover from Hurricane Sandy preparations.)**
2/3 cup sugar
Spices (cardamom, cinnamon, Chinese Five Spice, black pepper)

Wash the cranberries and pick out the bad ones.  In a saucepan, melt the butter over low-medium heat.  Add apples and cook till fairly tender, but not falling apart.  Add water and bring to a low boil.  Add sugar slowly and stir till dissolved.  Add cranberries.  When the liquid returns to a low boil, the cranberries will start to pop, and the apple slices are probably starting to fall apart by this time, too.  Continue simmering and stirring until liquid is mostly cooked off and cranberries are all exploded.  Spice as desired.  (I used a dash of cinnamon, about 1/2 teaspoon cardamom, 1/2 teaspoon Chinese Five Spice, and a lot of black pepper.  I don’t know how much, but I like black pepper.)  Let stand and cool for about half an hour.

And even though I ate so much last night that it literally hurt to breathe, I am now going to make another batch of this just for me.

*This recipe is not vegan but could easily be made so.  I think the butter adds a depth of flavor that I like, but you could probably use olive oil, grapeseed oil, or vegan butter substitute with good results.

**I wish I could tell you that it’s worth using wine in place of water for the liquid in this recipe…but it’s pretty much not.  I’ve tried with both red and white.  Most of the liquid boils off in cooking, and the flavor is really lost under the intensity of the cranberries.  Save your wine for making other recipes inappropriately boozy.

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November 11, 2012

Fall wanderings

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , at 12:11 pm by chavisory

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Grand Ferry Park in Brooklyn, near the studio where I was working the last week of October.  The smokestack is all that remains of a 19th-century molasses processing plant.

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View of the southern tip of Manhattan, from my first ever ride on the Staten Island Ferry.

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Reflections of sky and trees.

November 1, 2012

Happiness, for Autistics Speaking Day

Posted in Uncategorized tagged , , at 1:38 pm by chavisory

A couple years ago, in one of the most misbegotten autism awareness campaigns ever, named Communication Shutdown, people were asked to refrain from using social networking for one day, November 1, to simulate the communication difficulties of autism spectrum disorders, and that for everyone who pledged to do this, a donation would be made to charity.

This was a bad idea, because a whole lot of autistic people rely on social networking for communication and socialization, so getting people off the internet would actually be seriously counterproductive for the very people this was supposed to be helping.  And immensely silly, because being without Facebook in no way approximates the experience of being autistic.

I remember life without Facebook.  They’re not the same thing.  Not even a little.

In response, Autistics Speaking Day was founded, to use the internet to amplify our voices, rather than shut them down.  This is my first year of participation.

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One of the things that most enrages me when parents write about their child’s ASD diagnosis is lamentation that they’ll never be normal…as if normal is some kind of unit of measurement of what a life worth having is, above joy, integrity, authenticity, curiosity and passion, love, usefulness, or perception of beauty.

One of the things that breaks my heart is when they only ask “will he be happy?”  Because of course no one can say, and though I can tell you lots of things about what it’s like to be this, I can’t either.

I don’t think this is my most elegant writing, but it might be the best I can explain.  I hope it’s whatever comfort it can be.

It’s a sparkling, cool morning, right before fall.  I’m watching a little brown sparrow perform some kind of courtship dance and song on the branches of a honey locust tree, right outside of my favorite coffee shop’s window.  It’s a tiny, absurdly beautiful thing, and I’m pretty sure I’m the only one who notices it at the moment.  Which I like.

I am happier than I thought I’d ever get a chance to be.  It wasn’t always this way.

I live in a city I like, with people I enjoy.  I love the job that I do.  I’m a proud member of my union.  I earn a living in the arts—something that people tell you that real people don’t do.  I feel badass for this.  I’m doing something that I truly want to be doing with my life.

I have good friends, and I have more good friends than I once even imagined possible.

I love walks, museums, food, books, writing, music, traveling, Doctor Who.  I yell at the radio a lot during election season.

I actually feel like I’m living the life I was meant to.  I feel real in my own world for the first time in a long time.  It feels very strange, and very, very good.

A few weeks ago I was running a piano recital, and a little girl who takes lessons where I work got bored of listening and snuck backstage to talk to me.  She makes me laugh and I don’t have the heart to tell her she’s not supposed to be there.  We talked about books, and the presidential election.

Sometimes when I’m opening up the theater, or in the middle of a performance, or putting pianos away for the night, I get this incredibly eerie, but wonderful feeling of “This really is my life, and it belongs to me, and it’s where I’m supposed to be.”

Last night I went for a walk, and found, in the underbrush of the park that borders my nighttime walking route, a raccoon scavenging food for three feral kittens in the aftermath of the hurricane.  My jaw dropped when I realized what was happening.  While I watched this scene, a bat flew right by my head, twice.  I could hear its navigational clicking.  I can’t believe that most people don’t see and hear things like this.

And also—

Our rent went up again this year, despite the apartment actually being in worse shape than when we moved in eight years ago.

Our bathroom is disintegrating from water damage from a leak from the unit above us—again—that the city is incapable of forcing the landlords to fix permanently.  And the mice are positively indestructible.

I spent a couple months recently putting groceries on my credit card.  One difficult, underpaying job has followed another for most of the year.  Then my computer needed repairs I couldn’t afford but couldn’t go without.

I just re-qualified through the union for health insurance I can’t really afford either and may lose again in six months anyway.

I grew up being told that if I got a good education, I’d be comfortable and secure.  But the security that was supposed to be the predictable, deserved reward of this much work is nowhere in sight.

No one knew to tell me that I’d go insane in a job in which I didn’t have to work with my hands.  No one told me when I was growing up that there were countless ways to succeed in this life, countless right ways to live.  That you’re not rewarded with happiness for conformity to a path you weren’t actually made to follow.  That authenticity is a good bet.  And good thing, too, because it was the only choice I really ever had.

Other people my age have houses, children, backyards, dogs.  It is hard to watch this happen and know I may never be able to have these things.  But then again, this leaves me in not so different a position from that of a lot of people in my industry.

I do want a romantic partner, but don’t know how capable I am of sustaining such a relationship.  I want a family but doubt my ability to support one.   But if I never get married and have children, that will make me sad; it won’t make my life an unlivable tragedy.

I would like to live somewhere else, sometime, but worry about there not being enough work to support even myself.

And I’m scared for the future.  Of health problems I can’t afford.  Of ever losing my self-determination.  I don’t pretend that I’ll ever be able to retire in true comfort or security.  I don’t even let myself think about such a thing.

All of the above is true.  None of it cancels out any of the rest of it.  I love my life and I couldn’t wish for a different one.

And sometimes I go to bed at night thinking “God, I don’t know how long I can do this.”

But security isn’t happiness.  Normality isn’t happiness.

Things might not be this hard forever.  And they really might be.  And either way, I believe in taking joy wherever you can find it.  And that being who you are is worth it.  That everyone belongs somewhere.  That the world is full of so much beauty you might not believe me if I told you.

My coffee shop is across the street from the Cathedral of St. John the Divine.  You can see the parish building through the front windows, and I love the way the sunlight filters through the leaves of elm and apple trees and plays across the carved stone façade, faces of saints, angels, and monsters the old oak doors, the copper and frosted glass lanterns.

I could sit here and drink coffee and watch the light move across the cathedral buildings all day.

But I have promises to keep.